Yes, I find a few more men and they are, every single one of them, sexy and gorgeous. I look back with some regret at the years I wasted on men. But there's a "yes" part, too, that I don't want to overlook. A few years ago, I wrote a book called The Sex-Starved Marriage, where I described what happens in marriages where one spouse is desperately longing for more touch or more sex than the other. In the same way that Bob Dole made "erectile dysfunction" a household word and took the sting out of having a sexual dysfunction, I think people need to feel it's okay. And many times it has absolutely nothing to do with them and has everything to do with just the man himself. I worry about diseases.
We discovered in the survey, and it bears itself out in my practice, that the person with the lower sex drive controls the sexual relationship, not out of a need to manipulate or control, but because they have veto power.
Libidos, vibrators and men: this is what your ageing sex drive looks like
I never expected danger here. I look back with some regret at the years I wasted on men. Men at parties begin to ask me out on dates — real, actual dates. So women can debate that, but the truth is, if they really want their husbands be more interested in them, they should pay more attention to how they're taking care of themselves physically. I feel sexual every day as opposed to sexy — I am a fat, scarred old grandmother after all!